- Charity … or call it by whatever respectful name you prefer , a Donation or a Contribution ; have you thought of as to what would qualify as a ‘ good , meaningful ‘ charity .
- To my mind , there are 3 aspects which make for a ‘ good charity ‘ for it to be effective .
# As sages have said ; It needs to be a ‘ Satpaatri Daan ‘ … Must not only choose a worthwhile cause but also a worthy receiver . Remember it is not you feeling good about having done a ‘ good deed ‘ by donating something , it has to create the intended advantage at the receiver end . No amount of fertilizers , water & labour can help grow in a barren land . You need to find an ‘ accepting ‘ if not fertile land for the contribution to take root
# Donation / contribution must be made with purest purpose , with full devotion & not as a transaction of reciprocity … a contribution – complete in itself , without any expectation / ROI in mind
# You must be able to ‘ completely forget ‘ what you gave to whom , the next moment you give it out . Even a trace of memory will have strings of expectations & disappointments attached . You should be able to detach with your ‘ charity ‘ so much that after you donate , if the receiver trashes it with full contempt or ‘ wastes ‘ it or even sells it , it should not cause even a ripple or a crease on your mind and heart .
- Following above 3 qualifiers is also a test of how much you are driven by the cause . If cause is the reason you are doing charity , following above 3 steps will be ‘ natural ‘ to you . However YOU are the reason , you are doing charity ; if you are doing it to project you , you will not understand , what I’ve said above . In true charity — true contribution , you need to surrender to the cause , so that you get dissolved & only the cause remains .
- Same is true for any contribution we make to Businesses , Individuals , Nation !
ARE YOU A BELIEVER OR A SKEPTIC
If you ask me what I’m asking you , I’d say everyone needs to be both : A Believer and a Disbeliever ( Skeptic ) On this , people who believe that the world has to be either black or white will turn disbeliever here by dismissing what I’m saying … they may legitimately want to know : How . To me the question is not How , but When .
The answer to the right question : When will be you be a believer & when a disbeliever , is as follows :
You need to be a believer while ‘ Absorbing ‘ . You need to keep aside all doubts , skepticism , criticism and intently listen with full faith and devotion , when you are receiving knowledge , message or anything . Don’t dismiss or disregard anything or pass judgement when you are receiving . If you don’t do this , you will lose something without knowing how critical was it for you ; don’t even think … if you have any thought process interefering the reception , you will not even know what you lose . Like a sponge soak in everything ; time to squeeze out unwanted part is later , not now
Be a skeptic while ‘ Accepting ‘ Do not take anything for granted , don’t take anything on face value including yourself . Pass all that you have just absorbed through a sieve of Facts and Logic . Don’t decide or act on anything till you validate and ascertain . Be sure before you adopt and make it a part of your system . Remember ‘ Cow model ‘ in eating . She takes in all that she can without questioning or sifting . When she has nore time later , the food from stomach is brought back to to take time to ‘ chew ‘ , before that is assimilated into the system
The problem is that many of us follow a reverse sequence : They dismiss while absorbing , which is one mistake since they do not know what they are threw out and then they believe what they have absorbed , which is the second mistake since what they accepted is not validated . This way they only perpetuate what they believe to believe .
I urge you follow the right sequence … or is there any otehr , better way ; Please share with me
I was keen to share my thoughts , experiences and create meaningful exchanges , when I started this blog 3 years back .
I will always be keen to be visible and accessible with my blogs ; however my work pattern over past 1 & 1/2 years just got better of me in me not getting to blog for these 18 months , much against my wish
I just couldn’t get to get my ( electronic ) pen to paper … this is unacceptable and the fault is entirely mine . On this great occassion of India’s Republic day , I reconnect on the blog with a resolve that you will see me here adding value at least once every week .
To begin with I’m sharing with you my latest reflection — a new thought on Believer v/s Dis believer