Get Beyond Self

( Just back from Engagement ceremony of our dear Daughter ADITI  today , which also happens to be her Birthday . Chose this auspicious occasion to post this profound note which can bring in deep enlightenment and impact )  

There is a Sanskrit Subhashit ,which says that You are your Best Friend , as also your Worst Enemy . In effect on one hand all the ingredients to reach pinnacle are within us & on the other hand ; enormous power to hold us back from what we can be , also resides within us .
It has been conjectured , hypothesized and documented in study literature that most of us die underleveraged to an extent of up to 95 % — living up to just about 5 % of what we are capable of ! There are obviously some strong ‘ Gravity ‘ factors , an inner inertia , which holds us back . If only we can recognize & break these ( internal ) barriers , it can take us from a 5 % level to a potentially 100 % level .
Our Values , Beliefs , Thoughts , Judgments , Opinions , Biases bind us to what we think we know than explore what we do not know – we don’t know. This are the limiting walls , beyond which we can’t grow . These not only limit our options , but typecasts us into a pattern – almost like ‘ locking in ‘ ;unable to move with flexibility to explore what we can .
Qualitatively , the framework of our Beliefs , Values etc becomes a reference point from which we assess / ascertain or judge ‘ others’ position . This makes us a ‘ relative ‘ ( to ourselves ) thinker , robbing our access to absolute ( unbiased ) thinking
Though we are innocently unaware of this ; considering the gravity of the situation breaking these constraining shackles is not easy … it is not just ‘ opening up ; it is more like breaking the Sound Barrier . It is about liberating the ‘ soul ‘ from the ( constraining ) body – It is about “ Getting beyond Self “
Since the biggest barrier for us in life is our self , once we succeed getting past this barrier ( self ) , by definition , there is nothing more to conquer & nothing can stop you – this is where you unleash your fullest potential – unhindered ; that is why it is a ‘ Liberation ‘ stage
“Getting beyond Self ”– is about ‘ defying the gravity ‘ which pulls us down on – at each of the 3 components / levels . We will have to ‘ free ‘ our self on each level .
o Body
o Mind
o Soul
Body – getting fitter , health & energy ahead of your edge
Mind – Choose & make your Work , your Cause , higher than yourself . You can be ordinary( Who You are ) ; but don’t let your work ( What You do ) anything less than extraordinary !
Soul – getting rid of your bondages : Fear , Insecurities , Guilt , Shame , Beliefs , Biases — anything which can hold you back
How do we reach , ‘ beyond self ‘ ?
o Develop Self awareness – Get to know yourself better — Get to know & feel the Elephant you are , so that you develop / see perspectives beyond that of only ‘ One Blind Man ‘ – which is you currently
 Know what you are / are not ; what can liberate you / what can hold you back
o Build Powerful Perspectives – hold a larger perspective to life than just around yourself ; a perspective like “ Win-within-Win “, which helps you to see yourself as a part of a Larger Whole . It tells you to contribute to larger good , with the conviction that your part of the larger good will be larger than good ( better )
Getting beyond yourself is real Nirvana — a Spiritual Journey of real liberation from all Physical , Psychological bondages – You will feel light , you will ‘ flow ‘ ; being in fluidic state will be easy also for you to ‘ connect ‘ / ‘ reach ‘ with the world around . On one hand you can assimilate as much as you want ( with no barrier ) or on the other hand or you can choose to dissolve , surrender & be a part of the larger Being .
Since in this state , you are ‘ outside you’ , you will be amorphous – not bound by a contour / ‘ geography ‘ – you can take the shape you want .
As a corollary , you will no longer be in a ‘ relative ‘ ( to yourself ) frame of mind , when looking at others – there is no question of ‘ judging ‘ anyone since there is no ( Cartesian system of Coordinate Axes with you at the ( 0,0 ) origin ) framework to judge against . You will hence be in an ‘ absolute ‘ stage – which is the form of Truth , Purity — this is the stage perfectly amenable to assimilate or dissolve into the larger Purity ( In Hindu Philosophy , this is a process of Aatma uniting Paramaatma – being a part of the larger whole )
Liberating self from clutches of self , is Real Nirvana !

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4 thoughts on “Get Beyond Self

  1. Very nice and profound note on life written by you Yatin. At the outset Congratulate you both on the occasion of Aditi’s engagement and also for this note..We all can understand these thoughts intellectually and they seem to be easy to implement and at the same time not easy also.Bringing them in reality and controlling mind is difficult though not impossible.Meditation is the only way to realise our true self/true nature and potential.

  2. Thank you Ajit for taking time & effort to read my Posting . I acknowledge & admire your thoughts . It is indeed both ; essential but not easy to move ” across ” self . The stage beyond self is a true Free , Liberated state !

  3. True Yatin
    Only if we start getting over and past our overwhelming ego and love to be judgemental we can be free to soar higher and higher
    Trouble is we spend our formative years building up our so called self worth and ego
    That means we will have to start with unlearning all the self worth parameters
    Which is drastically difficult

    • Dear Sunil Bhauji
      Agree ! . Thank you for taking time to read & to share your thoughts . By the time we realise who we are & who we are not & similarly realise that what we were doing was not what we should be doing , life is nearly , nearing end . Those who realise early , have a longer ‘ go ‘ at peace in life .
      I conduct workshops on Self Awareness — at center of it is , undoubtedly EGO ! Key thoughts my workshop :
      # Most of us live life in illusion i.e. Self Image v/s in Self reality . We live to project to others , what we are not
      # The difference ( & multiplier ) between Self Image & Self Reality is EGO
      # Ego ( like backbone ) is necessary , it spells your character … it doesn’t have to be destroyed / reduced to zero . It just has to be kept under check . It is like riding horse — as long as the reigns of the wild horse are in your hand , it would not take you to the Jungle .
      # Ego is THE barrier in learning , the earlier we get it under control , faster will be our progress

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